Why is Travel so Stressful?

Invariably, Mr. HalfFull and I will end up in a fight before trip. This is our pattern, and we know it.

napping in the park

Mr. HalfFull is an expert chillaxilizer wherever he goes.

HalfFull vs. HalfEmpty Prep

I think this unfortunate routine stems from our HalfFull and HalfEmpty tendencies. I am a planner, who likes to optimize for all contingencies. On the other hand, Mr. HalfFull likes to relax and figure it out as he goes (or not…no biggie).

For me, it’s stressful to think of and strategize for all possibilities. It’s even more taxing when I feel like I am the only responsible party with the entire burden.

I think Mr. HalfFull’s lack of stress makes me doubly stressed. Even though I know it’s not his modus operandi, I try to spur him into action. This exercise in futility further irritates me. Rinse, repeat.

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Do You Belong?

Sometimes we feel out of place, like we just don’t belong. Even introverts like me need to be part of group. In Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, belonging is right in the middle. Acceptance into a group (or many groups) helps us become fully actualized humans.

But who decides if we belong? Is it based on our own judgement or the reaction of others?

Four Seasons living room

Mr. HalfFull reads a magazine in our suite at the Four Seasons.

Living the High Life

As a result of a live auction fundraiser and my dad’s generosity, Mr. HalfFull and I had the opportunity to spend the weekend at the Four Seasons in DC.  I felt a bit strange about staying there.  Under normal circumstances, I would never book a room at the Four Seasons; it’s for rich people!

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I’m Back!

Ms. HalfEmpty is jumping back into blogging!

Ms. HalfEmpty is jumping back into blogging!

Hello? Is anyone there?

I’m the blogger who posted here almost a year ago (although I did edit the most recent post earlier this year). Yes, it’s been too long, but I’m back!

International Travel

I’m excited to announce that Mr. HalfFull and I are going on another epic adventure this summer!

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Keeping Ms. HalfEmpty Full: Gazpacho

In this third (and long-awaited) installment of my “Keeping Ms. HalfEmpty Full” series, I present you with an easy recipe for gazpacho inspired by a lovely woman from Valladolid, Spain. I met Señora ‘Spacho during our 30/40 World Tour back in 2011 at VaughanTown.

Mr. HalfFull & Señora 'Spacho shopping for fruit in El Barco de Ávila

Mr. HalfFull & Señora ‘Spacho shopping for fruit in El Barco de Ávila

Señora ‘Spacho was extremely passionate about gazpacho, urging me to delve into the history of this Andalusian liquid salad. She explained how Spaniards have been eating variations of bread and olive oil soup for centuries before tomatoes were introduced to Spain! She raved about a deliciously creamy gazpacho recipe (without bread) she makes for her family to enjoy daily all summer long.

Señora 'Spacho and Ms. HalfEmpty during a One-on-One Session @ VaughanTown.  Como se dice "teach my husband how to make this delicious soup?"

Señora ‘Spacho and Ms. HalfEmpty during a One-on-One Session @ VaughanTown. Como se dice, “Teach my husband how to make this delicious soup?”

I made time to sit down and capture her personal recipe. Let me preface this recipe by saying that she strongly urged me to use both Spanish EVOO and Spanish cucumbers whenever possible!

Señora ‘Spacho also stressed that easily making gazpacho requires an extremely expensive Thermomix blender because it’s so powerful that you don’t have to sieve out any vegetable skin or seeds. Sadly, I didn’t even attempt to make her recipe until we bought an expensive (yet more reasonably pricedVitamix blender three years later. We hemmed and hawed about the price of this appliance before finally buying it, but it’s a game changer!

Ms. HalfEmpty loves my version of Señora ‘Spacho’s gazpacho. She even tried to make it herself once…

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Late to the Party

Recently, Mr. HalfFull and I attended a party where we met a med student from Philly. She started telling us about her psych rotation and how she and her classmates were instructed to offer angry people food as a first resort. The reasoning was that sometimes people are just angry because they’re hungry. In other words, they’re hangry.

hangry girl

When I pulled up this photo, Mr. HalfFull said, “That looks just like you!” (meganjo/flickr.com)

Hangry? I’d never heard this word before, but it’s a perfect mashup of hungry and angry.

Later as we drove away, Mr. HalfFull remarked that hangry is one of my common states. He’s come to realize that sometimes my irritable moods mean that my blood sugar is low, and I need to eat. So he feeds me before resuming the conversation. Clever man!

After hearing the word hangry from the med student, I thought it was a cool new word used in psych wards. But I didn’t realize it’s just part of the normal vernacular until I started hearing it everywhere. Perhaps I previously thought that people were just pronouncing hungry in an odd way. Boy was I late to this party!

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Schadenfreude or Justice?

It has been well-documented that I’m a rule follower. I get irritated when others skirt the rules or blatantly disregard them.

Judge Hand with Gavel

Someone has to mete out justice. (flickr.com/SalFalko)

Enforcing Rules

I’m also a rule enforcer and currently serve on two community Covenants Committees. I enjoy the power of enforcing rules and righting wrongs.

Sometimes it’s not an easy job. There are cases when it’s difficult to determine responsibility, and there is no ideal solution. But there are plenty of cases where the right answer is obvious to everyone but the rule breaker.

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Do You Have Time?

Mr. HalfFull subscribes to the Economist and often shares articles of interest with me. One entitled “Nice Work If You Can Get Out” piqued my interest. The author begins by comparing the leisure time of the rich and the poor in the past:

Sarah Bernhardt, 1890

Relaxing on a chaise is divine leisure! (Library of Congress)

For most of human history rich people had the most leisure. In Downton Abbey, a drama about the British upper classes of the early 20th century, one aloof aristocrat has never heard of the term “weekend”: for her, every day is filled with leisure. On the flip side, the poor have typically slogged.

But today, the roles have reversed.  Many wealthy people work long hours. According to the article:

Overall working hours have fallen over the past century. But the rich have begun to work longer hours than the poor.

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Who Wants More Snow?

Snow Covered Trees

Snow delicately outlining the tree limbs (Philip Halling/commons.wikimedia.org)

Did you groan as you read that title? If you experienced a long winter with the polar vortex and repeated snow days, perhaps you did. I’ve heard nothing but complaints about this winter in the DC area.

But I may be one of the few people who wasn’t bothered. I actually found the snowfall beautiful. I love to see the winter wonderland effect of snow outlining each tree limb and tiny branch. Ah, the delicate elegance.

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The End of an Unlikely Friendship

At 4:28 AM, I awoke to the sound of my cellphone in the other room. It sounded, “Message from Dawn…” I was sick and not sleeping well, so I got up to check the text message and learned that Dawn died at 3:22 that morning.

I’ve known older relatives who died. As a kid, I attended the funeral of a friend’s mom. I’ve attended the funerals of three grandparents, including one just last fall. But this is the first time a friend died.

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The Long Haul

We celebrate those who persevere for the long haul. We admire marathon runners and Ironman triathletes for their athletic perseverance. We respect PhDs and medical doctors for their academic perseverance. But sometimes staying in it for the long haul isn’t so commendable.

Television

For example, I still watch Grey’s Anatomy. I used to love this show. The characters took me on a roller coaster of emotions and left me craving the next episode. But after 1o seasons, it’s just not that compelling. As I was watching the two-hour season premiere, it felt like forever.

So why am I still watching? For some reason, I’m in it for the long haul. I feel like I’m invested in the characters and want to see how it ends.

Read

Since my husband is the poster boy for reading, I guess it’s good that I finish books!

Books

I do the same thing with books.  I don’t think I’ve ever intentionally not finished a book. (Although, I left one in the seat pocket on an airplane once, which made finishing it difficult.)

Even though I’m supposed to be reading for pleasure, I keep reading despite a lack of pleasure. I suffer through until the end.

Maybe it will get better. Maybe the end pulls everything together. Generally, it doesn’t. But I still feel compelled to finish.

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